Why failure is important
I remember having done diet after diet and failing every time; and every time I failed it was painful. Every time I ate something "bad" the surge of guilt overwhelmed me and "back on it on Monday" came thereafter. But if there's anything to say about failure, it is that failure makes us feel like we've let ourselves down and everyone around us. But instead of focusing on how to get back up and never fail again, we ask ourselves how do we fail and prevent ourselves from getting hurt. A few examples that follow are: "I just don't want tell anyone that I'm losing weight", "I won't set a diet plan for Saturday", "I'll avoid weighing myself". Little did we realise, that none of these are solving the problem but simply is adding salt to the wound. Furthermore, we didn't give ourselves the opportunity to realise that failure isn't a bad thing! In life, it is absolutely necessary to fail. Failure is a stepping stone to be better and here's how:
1. Experience
Failing is an experience and every experience generates a lesson. Some of the hardest hits teach us the biggest lessons. Winning is exhilarating but failing is empowering. When we fail, we can walk through that experience and dissect every angle and perspective so we can repeat that same experience and generate the absolute opposite angle - not by chance, but by your direct action. The failing experience teaches us the value and the importance of things in our lives that we had no idea about. Pain is fundamentally the most life-altering and valuable emotions we have and we can truly use it to become successful.
2. Knowledge
When we fail, we learn. We reflect and pick up skills, strategies and nuggets of wisdom that helps us to prevent the same pain next time and helps to generate a better future outcome. Thomas Edison famously failed nearly 10,000 times to create a commercially viable electric lightbulb and with each failure he learnt to change something for the next. It is accumulated failures that led to his ultimate success and the same can be said for your health journey or any other endeavour.
3. Resilience
The more we fail, the more resilient we become. I remember working in South India and witnessing children walk in the scorching heat to school, bare foot. They didn't feel the heat or the small rocks or pebbles on the street. Their feet had adapted, over time, to the harsher conditions of their environment; our personalities are somewhat the same. When we go through failure after failure, we become more and more resilient. Resilience helps us to persevere through any harsh condition or situation but it's a trait that is developed over time, much like the layer of skin on our feet. Resilience was never born through succeeding on the first try.
4. Growth
When we fail, we grow and, grow stronger. What started as "I am losing weight to look good" leads to "I am losing weight because I hate feeling not confident, I hate not having energy and I hate feeling tired all the time." The reflections that come from failure allow us to develop deeper and more meaningful reasons for the success at hand. Life is designed to help us grow and mature and without these failures we wouldn't grow, develop, adapt and improve our lives.
5. Value
When we fail, we value the fundamentals in a way we've not valued them before. Furthermore, the learnings we receive from failures allows us to be of more value as we experience new things; may this be assisting somebody else in the gym, working on a project at work, or helping a parent or a loved one on their health journey. New value is a fundamental result of failure.
You see, failure is actually an incredible opportunity for success. It helps us to learn, to grow, to add value, to receive value and develop resilience will enrich every part of our lives. Now that we know why it's important and why we can actually feel quite positive about failing, how do we pick up after a failure?
1. Understand and keep reminding yourself that it was okay (and even great) to fail
2. Drown out the noise. There will always be someone who has something to say. Select the words that uplift you, and discard the words that weigh you down.
3. Revisit your goals. Reflect on the goals you made last time and ask yourself if they were SMART. Perhaps your goal to lose 10lbs in a week was too ambitious and unrealistic? Perhaps asking yourself to cook different meals every day was not specific enough and needed a concrete meal plan. Reflect and understand what constituted the failure. Also note that your previous goal and plan could've been completely nonsensical and may have been a sure fire failure before you even started. A few examples you may be able to relate to are: cutting out carbohydrates, exercising twice a week, going on a 500 calorie diet to name a few.
4. Make a new plan. Make new goals that are SMART, create strategies and habits that can help you meet those goals and include some daily accountability to enhance discipline.
5. Lastly, be kind to yourself. Self-love and compassion go a long way in helping you overcome failure and helping you to feel more positive and focused for the next chapter.
What a simple formula for happiness. Let's stop over complicating things and focus on discipline. And just like that, you won't see your health failing but instead, thriving.








